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Getting Him to Propose

[ Posted On: 2007-01-16 ]

Let's face it, ladies, getting a guy to propose is rarely an easy feat. It's not that he doesn't love you, or even that he's afraid of the commitment; the majority of the time the guy just needs to see that marriage is the next logical step and that it is an important step to take. Here are a few tips to steer him in the right direction and hopefully get you engaged.

Try not to be obvious

You know how guys never look at maps or consult instruction or assembly manuals? It's not because they know what they are doing, it's because they hate to be told what to do. This is as true about their personal lives as it is about new household implements.

Even more, guys hate to be told what to do indirectly. Don't even think about leaving bridal magazines around the house, it will only push him further away from the idea. You might think it's subtle, but if he can figure out that you're hinting at something, it needs to be more subtle than it is.

So what qualifies as subtle?

The number one tip in subtlely encouraging him to propose is to never let him know what you're thinking, what he's beginning to think or (especially) that you know what he's starting to think about. If you think that sounds hard, you're right. Getting a guy to propose to you is his way of paying you back for the difficulty he had in landing you in the first place. To be successful, this will have to be a long term campaign of subterfuge.

One tactic is to make remarks that are about marriage, but not involving the two of you specifically. If you come across an article in the newspaper about a couple celebrating a 50th wedding anniversary, comment on it. Make sure to note how old they must have been when they got married; this will put it into perspective for him. Don't expand further or he will be on to you.

When the two of you are out and pass a jewelry store, glance at it but don't go in and don't say anything. Trust me, he'll notice the glances and he will think that he has solved the puzzle all on his own. When you meet up with friends who are recently engaged or married, make sure to look at her rings. Again, make comments but limit them to the subtle. He'll realize that you would love one of your own without being told.

The coup d'etat

Getting a guy to propose can be a long campaign. While most of it may be waged on a level that is the relationship equivalent of tactical engineering, the final battle will need to be unmistakable. If you have been dating or living together for a long time, and still there has been no proposal, it is time to take a trip. This does not mean that you have to break up, or even declare a break. Just schedule a vacation by yourself. It should be long enough that he has plenty of time to work the joy of freedom out of his system and start to realize that he misses you; ten days is usually more than sufficient. If he is the man you want to marry, he will realize in this time that he does not want to be apart from you for this length again. A proposal will definitely be in the offing.

Now all you will have to do is set a wedding date.

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About The Author: Alex Daniels consults for an online gift shop offering cheap wedding favors along with bridesmaids "gifts for her". Alex is recently married.

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